Wedding Cakes, Photos and Pizza: A Simple Lesson in History and Civil Rights!


God and the Constitution

From where I stand, the ONLY rights you and I have are those natural rights given to us by God and the man made rights specifically given to Americans by the Constitution of the United States.   As far as I can tell, wedding cakes, photos and pizza for your private party are not among those rights!

You have the right to spend your money where you want and on what you want. I have the right to refuse to take your money and send you to someone who wants it.   Seriously, if I saw a sign that said, “No Blacks Allowed,” I would go someplace else, just like they did pre-Civil Rights.

Yes, that sign would be considered “illegal” to post but those signs can be read by your spirit the moment you enter a business establishment. You KNOW if you are welcomed or not; at least I do! And I am very happy to leave a place where someone might do something to my food out of spite or revenge.

For example, if you walk into MY pizza parlor, I cannot refuse to serve you pizza simply on the basis of your sexual orientation, race, creed, religion, age, etc. But, I cannot be forced to cater your PRIVATE AFFAIRS including your wedding. In fact, why would you want me to cook food and serve your guests, when it is clear that I don’t want to do that?  MOVE ON!

Congress passed the Civil Rights Act to mainly outlaw discrimination in all public accommodations. This act helped to desegregate public schools, universities, transportation, theatres and several other public places.  Now there’s a little idea about public accommodation and access to services, which covers the aforementioned issues in most, if not all, public businesses.

pizza wedding cakeBut, a private affair IS NOT public event; even if it’s held in a public space!  You cannot make me bring my pizza to your party if I don’t want to do that!  In fact, you can’t even tell me HOW to make my pizza in my own establishment. So, if I say NO pepperoni will be served here, there is nothing that you can do about that. And if I say, I won’t put two women on the top of a wedding cake, there is nothing that you can do about that either. You are free to order a cake and decorate it as you want!  You are not free to force me to do something that I don’t want to do.  Or you are equally free to go down the road and find someone who will do as you ask.

For the record, back before the Civil Rights Movement, there were many, many white people who did business with Blacks but if the “establishment” racists took issue, they would threaten their lives and their families or burn their places down or put them out of business.  So, what you had were people who followed the status quo out of fear of reprisal.  Civil Rights changed THAT!

Here are the unspoken things that Civil Rights WAS and WAS NOT about.  It was NOT about getting “Bubba” to serve you fries against his will. Do you honestly want a KKK member cooking your food?  It was about not allowing Bubba to kick your ass, hang you from a tree or set you on fire, if you dared to enter his establishment. It was about ending the outward signs and signatures of “public” discrimination.no-dogs-no-jews-no-negros

It WAS more about allowing “Mandy” to sell you fries if she wanted to sell you fries. In fact, for “Mandy” selling you french fries was less about your color and more about her economics. Bigotry walks when money talks!  Imagine Nike without Black people to buy their overpriced kicks?

The Civil Rights Movement DID NOT out law racism.  Nothing can make someone love you except God!  Civil Rights opened the doors for those Whites who didn’t care about your skin color to do business with you without repercussion.  It was also about killing institutional racism within the government and setting standards and “set-asides.”

Now to be clear, setting a limited goal of how many minority companies one must deal with is racism in and of itself on the Government’s part. They rarely exceed that 20%!  So, they have determined, within the government, who can get rich and how rich you can get. Most Black companies that experience outrageous success do so WITHOUT GOVERNMENT ASSISTANCE!  But, please enjoy your ability to drink out of the water fountain NOT installed by a Black or Hispanic company because their 20% quota on the project had been reached!

Here is what I hate about today’s debate over wedding cakes, photos and pizza: The idea that if I don’t want to serve your private event because my Faith and your Lifestyle don’t rock together, that you think it’s okay to end my ability to take care of my family.  I hate the idea that if I don’t do what you want me to do, you think it’s okay to burn down my place of business.  In fact, I believe that the Liberal idiots at Salon.com actually said that anyone who refused to do so deserves to No Christians Allowedhave their businesses burned down!  I hate the idea that you feel you can send me death threats, break my windows and picket my establishment because you don’t like my religion.  Or even better, that if I serve the God and religion of my choice and choose to follow the tenets of that religion, I am labeled as “homophobic.”

I want to be perfectly clear when I say this: Not wanting to cater, photograph or perform a Gay wedding  does not mean that those folks hate you. It simply means that they love God’s Word more!  Not one single establishment said, I won’t serve you pizza or I won’t bake you a cake. What they stood on, by their own principles, is that they won’t do something that overtly promotes a lifestyle or social issue they don’t believe in, support or ascribe to.  They have the freedom, at least for the present, to do just that! And you have the freedom to go get your PRIVATE services handled by someone else!

As a business woman, I am constantly being asked by clients to perform services that are not a part of my company’s repertoire. In the past, I’ve tried to accommodate all requests, even when they are clearly out of my wheel house. But, the last year or so, I stopped doing that. Yes, I talk a good game but I don’t want to direct sell your products because it’s not what I do.  I’ve had people get angry with me for saying, “No.”  But, I don’t care. This is my business and I’m going to give you the services that I want. If I don’t have what you need, you are quite free to find someone else!  You can’t force my company to perform the services that YOU want — if I don’t want to offer that service!

Liberals want to call it “progressivism,” when what it actually represents is a throwback to the times before Civil Rights kkkwhen people were not free to make choices for themselves. Today’s movement to stifle Christians from serving God before serving man is EXACTLY like the KKK’s movement to stifle Black freedom through fear, intimidation and threats to put people out of business if they served Blacks.  Now. Think about that one for a moment!

This is NOT a move forward but quiet and significant move in the opposite direction.  It is a move back to an era where personal freedom and dignity was taken away from one people-group, simply to please another people-group.

When we begin, as a country, to uphold the rights of one person’s belief’s over the rights of another person’s belief, this is not called Freedom! When we allow the government to decide who will be in business and who will be out of business — that is called Communism. When we allow those who wish to destroy the lives and livelihood of others to put them in their place — that is called Fascism.  Just think about it!  Peace out! – J-Blue

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Life on Purpose!


mountain climberEveryday we are faced with the choice of whether or not to see the world through our own flawed lens, or whether to see it the way it really is; through God’s eyes.

Conventional wisdom tells us that the world sucks!  If you focus on the failing economy, prejudice, bigotry, crime, pollution, abuse and lack – then yes, our world sucks – BIG TIME!

But, if we are to truly succeed in this world, then we must always go to the highest place in ourselves.  We must make a habit of cutting through the BS and the nonsense and strive towards the penultimate place in our souls.  We must accept culpability for our own state of being – or we can ignore our own faultiness!

What does this mean?  Well, I’m glad you asked!

Today, you are a product of every, single decision you have ever made in the past.  The life you live now is not the result of what your parents did to you; what people said about you or even what may or may not have happened to you.  It is a product of who you believe yourself to be and how you react to what you believe to be the truth!

Let me climb off my high horse for a minute!  In the past, I have been a chronic shopper.   I have scores of clothes and items that still have price tags on them!  My Mother was a chronic shopper.  I shopped for shopping’s sake.  I didn’t’ even care if I was buying for me – as long as I was spending.  If you gave me a dollar, it had a half-life of ten minutes in my wallet!   My out of control spending resulted in no discernible savings on my part.   So, that when I had an emergency; I had a crisis.   When my car broke down; I had issues.  If a check was an hour late; I had problems.  Paying late charges weren’t an issue for me – it was a privilege that I took in order to stretch myself beyond my means.

I blamed everyone!  I blamed my parents; who could not afford to pay for my college.  So, I had to pay for myself.   I blamed my clients; obviously they weren’t paying me enough.  I blamed society; a Black woman is third class.  I blamed Black people; why can’t we hire our own?  I blamed God; if I was in this situation, He could not love me?  I blamed men;  What?I’m giving you what you need – give a Sister a break!  I blamed my siblings – I helped you b@##$$’s why can’t you help me?  But, in the end the blame laid itself at the true perpetrator – ME!

I couldn’t accept that I was the architect!  I wanted to look like everyone else; be like everyone else; act like everyone else; have what everyone else had.   And even though I was founded in God, I was not founded in myself!   And then I turned 40!

I was no longer the cute young thing.  I was the woman who looked younger than her actual age; an anomaly and a phenomenon. It was then that I made some critical decisions about how I wanted to live my life and what I wanted to be known for. (Dangling participle)

The Changeling

What I wanted was my authentic self. But, where was she?  What would my life look like if I could no longer indulge myself in my excuses?

What I discovered is that true courage is not doing what you think is right – it is doing the thing you are most afraid of in the midst of your fear – Changing!

I learned the lesson of adaptability.  I learned that change, whether it is one’s job, location or predominant beliefs — is not a bad thing.  It can lead to a path of outrageous happiness and joy!  Greed can be used for good, but change is better!

Dr. Wayne Dyer states that the top eighteen reasons that people cannot or will not change for success are:

  1. It’s too difficult.
  2. It’s too risky.
  3. It will take too much time.
  4. My family drama.
  5. I don’t deserve it
  6. It’s not in my nature.
  7. I can’t afford it.
  8. I have no support.
  9. It never happened before.
  10. I’m not strong enough.
  11. I’m not smart enough.
  12. I’m too old.
  13. I can only do what I’m doing now.
  14. The “rules” won’t let me.
  15. I lack of energy.
  16. My personal family history (divorce, abuse, youngest, oldest, middle child.)
  17. I’m too busy.
  18. I’m afraid.

And in Dyer fashion he proposes the following:

Become Aware

  • Always go to the highest place in yourself.  Be aware of what you are trying to achieve.  Awareness knows that you can do ALL things through God.

Recognize that all excuses are misalignments

  • Think like God thinks.  We don’t have to die to be able to do this and God never uses excuses.  He never claimed to be too tired to create a star.  You are a star!

Become contemplative

  • Contemplation is the highest form of activity.
  • What you think about, you become.
  • The Science of Success assumes your continual and positive use of your thoughts.

Become a willing human being

  • How willing are you to rid yourself of excuses by taking total responsibility for your life? How willing are you to surrender all to God and shed the things you will not do?  How willing are you to arrange the pieces that come your way and make them work for you?
  • Be willing to contemplate God. Remember the great and good things He has already done for you.
  • Detach yourself from the outcome. If it is yours, it will come to be.  If it is not yours, there is something better on the horizon!

Live a passion-filled life

  • If you have passion, the Universe will find a way to make your dreams come true!
  • If you have passion you will focus on your best life!
  • If you have passion, you won’t give up, no matter how hard the road may become.
  • If you have passion, you will NOT live without your heart’s desire!

Don’t complain/Never explain

  • You are what and who you are.  If you don’t like it, that’s not a good thing.   If you have to justify it – that’s even worse.

God always says “Yes” and “Amen”.  If you can visualize it – you can have it!  Think on the things you want to have.  Think on those things you want to be.  “They that keep their minds stayed on you (God) will be cast in perfect peace.”  Who you are and what you have is completely up to you and God.  Now go out there make your life a great success.

If you’ve never heard this before: I love you and I believe in YOU!