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Whether you own your own business or work for a company, you have to be prepared to lose something at some point in your life. As business owners, we will inevitably lose clients, sales, vendors and employees. As a staff member, you may lose those same things and could even lose your job. People lose games, arguments and position every minute of the day. But, whatever type of loss you encounter, learning to face it gracefully; without bitterness, envy or anger; will always take you to an ultimate win.
I have to admit that I don’t like to lose and I don’t do it very often but it happens. As an athlete, I learned that Second Place is the First Place Loser. As a violin player, second chair was as bad as playing in the balcony. As a singer, get the lead and not the chorus. As a wife, I wanted everything in my relationship and home to be flawless.
As a mother, my child should be perfectly wonderful. As a business owner, I want client relations to be great. And as a person, I want my life to work well and be complete.
News Flash! Life has a way of doing as it pleases. Perfection rarely, if ever, happens and when things don’t happen the way you want or think they should happen – it can seem like a you’re losing!
People lose jobs, marriages, friendships, businesses, relationships, loved ones and sometimes we even lose a dog or a cat. Losing and winning are both a part of Life. We all know how to win at things. Winning always feels good. The easy emotions and good vibrations that come along with a win can be very addictive. Everyone loves a winner! Winners are applauded, showered with accolades, complimented and admired.
But, when we lose something, the “winner” in us can go into a tailspin, leaving us empty, enraged and feeling alone. When we lose things, it can often affect our self-esteem, work flow, damage relationships and make us resentful. But, there are some things that can help us turn what seems to be a loss into an ultimate End Game Win!
In our modern times, politicians lose races, companies fold, reputations are trampled and jobs, friends, money, houses, husbands, wives and even children are lost. Loss is a human condition that happens from time to time.
We’ve all heard of the husband or wife who died and the spouse couldn’t find a reason to go on living, so they died shortly thereafter. People lose jobs and commit suicide; they lose a big client and delve deep into alcohol or substance abuse and depression.
You can grieve a loss but grief should not take such a stronghold that it kills you or leads you into an abyss. You had a life before that loss. Make sure that your foundation within yourself is so strong that loss cannot take you out of the game. Learn how to get back up again.
I can clearly remember the first time I was ever fired from a job. I had actually been self-employed for about eight years, when this company pursued me to become their Director of Plan Education and Communications.
It sucked from the start. I had the title and the money but no autonomy or authority. And even though I felt totally trapped and was very unhappy, being terminated felt like a train had hit me. My vision blurred and the pain in my heart was actually physical. In just a few minutes, I experienced a gamut of emotions ranging from utter disbelief to deep and overwhelming sadness. I even got sick to my stomach and I sobbed as I packed my belongings.
I had been so invested in how good I was at my job that it never occurred to me that someone could or even would set me up for failure and dismissal. The words, “We’re letting you go,” cut through me like a knife and I could barely breathe. I went home that day and stayed there for the next three days.
Fortunately for me, I have a strong foundation about who I am and after I held my brief Pity Party, I got up and started to make plans to move forward. Within a week, I had re-launched my company and never looked back.
I remember in the early 80’s, the mudslides that happened in and around Santa Cruz, California. To go to bed during a rainstorm and wake up to 3-4 feet of mud covering yards, driveways and roads, houses smashed to bits by uprooted Giant Redwoods, death and destruction all around, was a shocking and horrendous event in my Life. Being without food, power, water and the ability to drive was a frightening experience. It looked and felt like a war zone and it was all entirely out of my control.
The only thing that we could do was to focus on day-to-day survival issues; getting food, water and staying safe and warm. Anyone who has ever been in a natural disaster has learned two important lessons: (1) How to release control of the outcome and (2) How to prepare for anything that comes your way. I also learned that when mud moves, it smothers sound and you don’t hear it coming until it is so close that you cannot possibly get away. Loss is like that too.
Ongoing anger at external events can destroy your self-esteem, do great harm to your relationships and can even kill you. Anger has been linked to heart disease, strokes, Cancer and a host of avoidable diseases. If you have out of control anger, then you need to seek professional help. But, most often talking your anger through with someone whose counsel you trust can help you bring it under control.
The saying, “Laughter is the best medicine,” is absolutely true. When I catch myself falling into anger, I look for things that will make me laugh. I might turn on a show, pop in a movie or call one of my funnier friends. Comedy Central has helped me more times than I can count!
If you are feeling guilty and you’ve done nothing wrong – STOP! Access the situation, talk it out with a friend or confidante and get on with your Life. If someone is trying to make you feel guilty when you have nothing to feel guilty about, lose them! Life is too short to worry about nonsense.
The shame of losing a job, divorcing a spouse, losing your freedom in the judicial system or even losing a baby can make you want to hide yourself away and pretend that things never happened. When people experience shame, they want to hide, if not literally, than most certainly figuratively. They may hide their true selves in order to avoid further hurt and pain. They may hide behind a cloud of denial to the true circumstances surrounding their loss.
This type of shame is based on how others might or might not view your loss. It is based on how others perceive you and your value system and judgments. Until you come to a genuine and clear belief about who and what you are, you will continue to be a mere reflection of what others think and how they feel about you. And when that feeling turns negative as a result of your loss, you will feel shame.
All too often people become boiling cauldrons of resentment because they back down when standing up to adversity, accusation and misplaced dominance is the thing to do. If you know you are right then stand firm in your righteousness. Don’t be bullied into taking a position that you are opposed to no matter how much the pressure of loss weighs on you. In the end, you will be happy that you drew that line in the sand and stood firm in your convictions and the people around you will be happier with a happy you.
Significant loss can trigger fear. Even small loses can trigger a host of negative emotions including anxiousness, insecurity or helplessness. You have to be willing to let these things go. Get a piece of paper and write down all the feelings and emotions you are experiencing. Write down how you feel about the person, place or thing that created your loss. Take a match and set that piece of paper on fire. Make sure you go outside. You don’t want to burn down your house and, depending on the size of the fire that is a distinct possibility.
I’m being facetious but I want you to burn those feelings and watch the smoke rise into the sky and dissipate. Let that ish go and move on. You will be happier, those around you will be happier. Your world will become a safe place for you again.
If you don’t have a hobby, now might be the time to get one. Do you love to walk? Take up hiking! Got an eye for design? Get a degree in decorating. Don’t let age be a barrier to your dreams. Remember that Colonel Sanders didn’t become a professional chef until he was 40 and he started Kentucky Fried Chicken at the tender young age of 62.
If your loss is work related, think about taking your genius and starting your own business. If you can’t do that, don’t wait too long before looking for a new position. If it’s a client loss, replace them as fast as you possibly can or reassess and move in another direction.
If your loss is more personal, take time to fully grieve but don’t get mired in it. Whether someone left you or died, there is nothing you can do about it. When my uncle died, I looked back on his life with profound happiness. I remember everything he taught me and how much he loved me. I could see that he lived a good and full life and I chose to focus on the more positive aspects of it.
Try to keep loss from interrupting your daily routine. Keep exercising and eating – but don’t overeat because of grief. Continue to interact with your loved ones on a meaningful level. Maintain your hobbies and those things that bring you deep joy. Don’t let loss steal your Happy.
If you are a person of faith, pray about it and hand it over to God. If you are not a religious person, think about it and give it to the Universe, chant over it or bury it in the earth. Just get those negative emotions and feelings out of your head and heart. and turn them over to something bigger than yourself.
When I was a kid, I wrote poems, music and short stories about my pains and perceived losses. As an adult, I talk about it with God, close confidantes or my Mom. Then I take it to paper and write or blog about it because I know that if I am having this experience, others are too. No man or woman is an island unto themselves. Use your experience to help others find their way in the darkness. But, please remember that whatever you are going through, you are not alone. I and many others really do have your back! In the end, handling loss with dignity and grace will lead you to the Winners Circle.
Doing good for others should be come an integral part of your life’s repertoire! Along with finding positivity in everything, no matter how bad it seems; speaking words of life into your life; making the time to meditate and focus on your dreams; making plans to fulfill your dreams and taking positive decisive actions to attain the life you desire, reaching into someone else’s life and giving them hope or donating funds and time, is more than just a suggestion. It is a mandatory life skill that every person who desires success should master!
Whether it’s becoming a mentor to share your knowledge, volunteering at your local church or charity, donating items or money to an organization, directly helping those you know in need or simply taking the time to pray for someone else, the benefits of giving far outweigh any negatives that might pop into your mind.
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From where I stand, the ONLY rights you and I have are those natural rights given to us by God and the man made rights specifically given to Americans by the Constitution of the United States. As far as I can tell, wedding cakes, photos and pizza for your private party are not among those rights!
You have the right to spend your money where you want and on what you want. I have the right to refuse to take your money and send you to someone who wants it. Seriously, if I saw a sign that said, “No Blacks Allowed,” I would go someplace else, just like they did pre-Civil Rights.
Yes, that sign would be considered “illegal” to post but those signs can be read by your spirit the moment you enter a business establishment. You KNOW if you are welcomed or not; at least I do! And I am very happy to leave a place where someone might do something to my food out of spite or revenge.
For example, if you walk into MY pizza parlor, I cannot refuse to serve you pizza simply on the basis of your sexual orientation, race, creed, religion, age, etc. But, I cannot be forced to cater your PRIVATE AFFAIRS including your wedding. In fact, why would you want me to cook food and serve your guests, when it is clear that I don’t want to do that? MOVE ON!
Congress passed the Civil Rights Act to mainly outlaw discrimination in all public accommodations. This act helped to desegregate public schools, universities, transportation, theatres and several other public places. Now there’s a little idea about public accommodation and access to services, which covers the aforementioned issues in most, if not all, public businesses.
But, a private affair IS NOT public event; even if it’s held in a public space! You cannot make me bring my pizza to your party if I don’t want to do that! In fact, you can’t even tell me HOW to make my pizza in my own establishment. So, if I say NO pepperoni will be served here, there is nothing that you can do about that. And if I say, I won’t put two women on the top of a wedding cake, there is nothing that you can do about that either. You are free to order a cake and decorate it as you want! You are not free to force me to do something that I don’t want to do. Or you are equally free to go down the road and find someone who will do as you ask.
For the record, back before the Civil Rights Movement, there were many, many white people who did business with Blacks but if the “establishment” racists took issue, they would threaten their lives and their families or burn their places down or put them out of business. So, what you had were people who followed the status quo out of fear of reprisal. Civil Rights changed THAT!
Here are the unspoken things that Civil Rights WAS and WAS NOT about. It was NOT about getting “Bubba” to serve you fries against his will. Do you honestly want a KKK member cooking your food? It was about not allowing Bubba to kick your ass, hang you from a tree or set you on fire, if you dared to enter his establishment. It was about ending the outward signs and signatures of “public” discrimination.
It WAS more about allowing “Mandy” to sell you fries if she wanted to sell you fries. In fact, for “Mandy” selling you french fries was less about your color and more about her economics. Bigotry walks when money talks! Imagine Nike without Black people to buy their overpriced kicks?
The Civil Rights Movement DID NOT out law racism. Nothing can make someone love you except God! Civil Rights opened the doors for those Whites who didn’t care about your skin color to do business with you without repercussion. It was also about killing institutional racism within the government and setting standards and “set-asides.”
Now to be clear, setting a limited goal of how many minority companies one must deal with is racism in and of itself on the Government’s part. They rarely exceed that 20%! So, they have determined, within the government, who can get rich and how rich you can get. Most Black companies that experience outrageous success do so WITHOUT GOVERNMENT ASSISTANCE! But, please enjoy your ability to drink out of the water fountain NOT installed by a Black or Hispanic company because their 20% quota on the project had been reached!
Here is what I hate about today’s debate over wedding cakes, photos and pizza: The idea that if I don’t want to serve your private event because my Faith and your Lifestyle don’t rock together, that you think it’s okay to end my ability to take care of my family. I hate the idea that if I don’t do what you want me to do, you think it’s okay to burn down my place of business. In fact, I believe that the Liberal idiots at Salon.com actually said that anyone who refused to do so deserves to have their businesses burned down! I hate the idea that you feel you can send me death threats, break my windows and picket my establishment because you don’t like my religion. Or even better, that if I serve the God and religion of my choice and choose to follow the tenets of that religion, I am labeled as “homophobic.”
I want to be perfectly clear when I say this: Not wanting to cater, photograph or perform a Gay wedding does not mean that those folks hate you. It simply means that they love God’s Word more! Not one single establishment said, I won’t serve you pizza or I won’t bake you a cake. What they stood on, by their own principles, is that they won’t do something that overtly promotes a lifestyle or social issue they don’t believe in, support or ascribe to. They have the freedom, at least for the present, to do just that! And you have the freedom to go get your PRIVATE services handled by someone else!
As a business woman, I am constantly being asked by clients to perform services that are not a part of my company’s repertoire. In the past, I’ve tried to accommodate all requests, even when they are clearly out of my wheel house. But, the last year or so, I stopped doing that. Yes, I talk a good game but I don’t want to direct sell your products because it’s not what I do. I’ve had people get angry with me for saying, “No.” But, I don’t care. This is my business and I’m going to give you the services that I want. If I don’t have what you need, you are quite free to find someone else! You can’t force my company to perform the services that YOU want — if I don’t want to offer that service!
Liberals want to call it “progressivism,” when what it actually represents is a throwback to the times before Civil Rights when people were not free to make choices for themselves. Today’s movement to stifle Christians from serving God before serving man is EXACTLY like the KKK’s movement to stifle Black freedom through fear, intimidation and threats to put people out of business if they served Blacks. Now. Think about that one for a moment!
This is NOT a move forward but quiet and significant move in the opposite direction. It is a move back to an era where personal freedom and dignity was taken away from one people-group, simply to please another people-group.
When we begin, as a country, to uphold the rights of one person’s belief’s over the rights of another person’s belief, this is not called Freedom! When we allow the government to decide who will be in business and who will be out of business — that is called Communism. When we allow those who wish to destroy the lives and livelihood of others to put them in their place — that is called Fascism. Just think about it! Peace out! – J-Blue
Yesterday, someone messaged a meme to my inbox on Facebook and without even questioning it, I reposted and retweeted!
Shortly thereafter, someone responded with a Snopes.com calling my meme an urban myth. I have been a writer, researcher and journalist in some capacity since I was a young child. So, it is very rare that I don’t research something that is sent to me before I pass it on.
But this time, I allowed my critical thinking muscle to remain asleep and posted without question. There were a few demands that I apologize or retract but I did not because in the world of instant social messaging, these things will happen and it’s not like I’m CBS or CNN. I mean they rarely retract even if their message error reaches millions!
But, for some reason, this little incident got me to thinking about how so many of us in American society have lost the Art of Critical Thinking; especially in these trying and uneasy times, and particularly with our oh, so social lives.
Think about it! We don’t even log into Facebook anymore, it just stays open! But every single day, we immediately begin going through our “friends” updated status posts; deleting, responding or ignoring. We check our Twitter to see what’s been tweeted and if we like it we retweet. We go to our Linkedin page to get the latest business trends; Pinterest and Instagram to see the new pics and suggested boards to repin, take a look to see what our favorite bloggers have to say and make sure that our email backlog hasn’t grown too much.
We are certainly a Social Networked Nation. But, for the most part, we are socializing, twitting, facing, linking up, listening to and being influence by virtual strangers that we have placed enough trust in to believe what they post. Never mind that we have never met said “friend” face-to-face” or had as much as a personal phone call. And I would like to think that this behavior is strange except it’s not anymore. It has become the “new normal.”
But, I’m not complaining! I have made fast and true friends via Social Media. I have cried with, prayed for and celebrated along with dozens and dozens of my “friends.” I have confided in, railed against and even “blocked” others. I have made good “friends” and lost them over something I said in a post. I have made bad “friends” that I have lost immediately. There are even quite a few people with whom I have remained “social” with since I initiated Social Media back in 1993.
Back then, it was chat rooms on AOL. That was when the internet was purely dial up and you were charged by the hour for your time in chat rooms as well as by the phone company . I remember running up a $600 phone bill from hanging out chatting and playing online games from six one evening until 6 the next morning. That bill broke that habit once and for all.
My next venture was to a site call Ryze. It really was the predecessor of Facebook because it was the first site where you could chat and instant message on a board that others could see. I joined that site back in 2004, prior to George W. Bush’s first election. It was a rousing time politically and conservatives and liberals did battle. It was truly a fun time and I met many friends that I have remained connected with even as we transferred our online lives over to Facebook in 2008. So, having meaningful and long term online relationships are nothing new to me having been involved in Social Media for the last 20 years. So much for history back to the purpose of this blog post.
Social Media has turned us all into news sources. In fact, we are becoming a nation of reporters. Our need to have instantaneous reports has led to a surplus of information; some good and some not so good.
In order to fight against rumors, hearsay and gossip, some have managed to create websites that debunk erroneous transmissions, while still other sites have popped up to debunk the debunkers!
At the end of the day, we no longer have to research because we can Google and Wiki our way to the truth. We don’t have to parse between what is right and what is wrong because others are doing our thinking for us. We need only to decide what it is we want to hear and most likely someone, somewhere on the internet has said it the way we like it. And we will accept it and pass it on as if it’s the truth.
I would love to believe that only I have made this mistake but unfortunately, we all do it at one time or another! I have found myself debunking the posts, blogs and updates of many people over the past 20 years as I’m sure you have.
Usually if I see a few friends posting about something, I find interesting, I will click to see what’s up. Frankly, Facebook is now my major source for news and updates, then I will Google for verification. I’m not big on sharing information that has not passed the smell test. But, occasionally, someone that I “trust” will send me a blurb and without hesitation, I just pass it along.
In 1987, at the 8th Annual International Conference on Critical Thinking and Education Reform, Michael Scriven & Richard Paul defined critical thinking as “the intellectually disciplined process of actively and skillfully conceptualizing, applying, analyzing, synthesizing, and/or evaluating information gathered from, or generated by, observation, experience, reflection, reasoning, or communication, as a guide to belief and action.
In its exemplary form, it is based on universal intellectual values that transcend subject matter divisions: clarity, accuracy, precision, consistency, relevance, sound evidence, good reasons, depth, breadth, and fairness.”
So, in short, there are five essential traits that define a critical thinker:
So, I have determined that 80% of the time, I am a Critical Thinker. My goal is to be one all of the time!
As Independents and moderate Democrats take to the hills faster than a California brush fire, Barack Obama is becoming to the Liberal elite media, what honey is to a bear: Something they love to lap up, but at the end of the day, if you have too much, it actually makes you sick.
If you wonder why they’ve avoided any significant reporting on the brotha’ from another planet, Van Jones, Special Advisor for Green Jobs at the White House Council on Environmental Quality and founder of Green for All, an advocacy group that works to bring green jobs to the underprivileged, and author of The Green Collar Economy (or any of Obama’s other “Czars”), it’s because, frankly, they don’t really know what to say. I mean, they are truly dumbfounded! His credentials LOOKED good!
Van “hoof-in-mouth” Jones has openly spewed his contempt for the United States for years and yet not one Liberal spoke up when he was appointed by Obama. The silence from the Left is deafening following Jones’ latest gaffe. Not even Pelosi, who opens her mouth more than a frog in a fly factory, has uttered a word in his defense.
Not enough that he supported the killer of police officers. Not enough that he is crazy enough to openly back the belief that President Bush was responsible for the 9/11 tragedy. Not enough that he publicly called a significant portion of the United States population “assholes.” Not enough that he called a living President of the United States a “crack head.” These acts and statements make him fit to serve as advisor to the man who holds the highest position in our country? Somebody’s on Meth in the White House!
According to White House press secretary Robert Gibbs, Jones “continues to work in the administration.” Why? If ANYONE in the Bush Administration had been so openly stupid every media outlet on the planet would have been demanding a resignation. Jones said: “If I have offended anyone with statements I made in the past, I apologize.” Okaaay…
Day after day the leftist media outlets are seeing that Obama is truly a deceitful, America-hating supporter of not just one racist (Reverend Wright); not just one Communist (William Ayers); but has managed to subjugate the Constitution and illegally surround himself with a cadre of presidential “appointees” who make Stalin look like the Olson twins in comparison.
From his stance on creating a “culture of death” to his gangsta’ takeover of healthcare, the Liberal media is finally discovering that the “man of change” they paraded to the American public and stuffed down our throats, is actually a horror they helped to unleash. And for that they have no excuse. How do you back pedal from a monumental mistake like this?
You don’t! You ignore it and pretend that it isn’t happening. You find the best turd in this pile of s**t and act like it’s the best thing since the cable television. You parade, before an ever enlightened public, every pitiable person with a sob story to tell in this burning heap to try and make it look like “your guy” is actually doing something good. At least that’s what you do if you have NO scruples and NO morals yourself. Welcome to mainstream media!
When supposed “legitimate and unbiased” observers like Eva Paterson, president and founder of the Equal Justice Society, a group known to support liberal views, reports in the Huffington Post (a decidedly liberal blog) that Jones has apologized; changed his radical ways and is the subject of unwarranted conservative attacks, I only need look to his most recent video and read HIS own words.
It is little wonder that people no longer wish to pay to read mainstream media tripe and newspapers are fading faster than Madonna’s looks. If mainstream television news continues on its present path, it will likely see a similar demise. Katie who?
The very thing the Obama Administration purports to cure (partisan politics, racism, cultural division), it actually supports; using the bully pulpit, subversion and oppression in an attempt to silence the opposition.
And the Liberal media is either too afraid or too stupid to speak out against it or even report on it. So, what makes this Administration so special? Nothing at all — except the president is a Black man! And to speak out against him makes you a racist!
History is rife with tin-can dictators (and their media supporters) who believe that 51% is enough to make the rest of us into mindless slaves incapable of rising up. But they’ve been wrong before and they are wrong today. Just watch the tumbling polls and be prepared for 2010 and a one-term president named Barack Hussein Obama who will depart the White House in 2012!
Barack Hussein Obama keeps telling us that he loves America and Lady Liberty. So why, after everyone of his foreign speeches, do I feel like I’ve been kicked in the chin? Perhaps because his actions both, here and abroad, are those of someone who does not love this country; his home that has been so good to him and his friends and family.
If he treated his wife Michelle (whom he also claims to love) the way he treats the country he says he loves, he’d be in jail for Domestic Abuse and speeding head long into divorce by now.
If he loved Lady Liberty, he’d take HER out on a date once in awhile and woo HER with sweet words, actions and deeds. Instead she is his unwilling victim.
He verbally insults her, slaps her in the face and then puts her on display — black eye and all — for friends and foes alike to gawk. He steals her money and spends it — whooping it up with his friends — and when she protests, he calls her a weak and useless complainer. When he isn’t ignoring half her children, he is telling them how ignorant and racist they are simply because they want more than he is offering for their Mother country.
Lady Liberty has been very, very good to Barack Obama. She has loved, supported and educated him. She has made him a very rich man. And yet, he goes around the world cheating on her and telling everyone who will listen what a “bitch” she is. Then he comes back home, throws his shoes in the corner and expects her to cook dinner and clean. She is allowed to work for him, but he doesn’t feel the same responsibility towards her.
Abuse occurs when one entity in a relationship tries to dominate and control the other. An abuser doesn’t “play fair.” He uses fear, guilt, shame, and intimidation to wear the victim down and gain complete power. Abuse is used for one purpose: to gain and maintain total control over the victim.
The only difference between Barack Obama’s Domestic Abuse and a typical Abuser is:
Poor Lady Liberty is limping around with a swollen ankle, a bloody nose and a black eye; beaten and bruised. She is being unjustly accused of all sorts of crimes. She stands alone — without a hero — waiting for the day when someone has the guts to stand up for her.
Norman Thomas, six times candidate for president on the Socialist Party ticket, said the following:
The election of Barack Hussein Obama, has ushered in Thomas’ dream of a Socialist America. Against all believable odds, a Socialist America, lead by Barack Obama, is indeed coming to pass. Most American’s do not want or support Socialized Medicine. But, our illustrious leader and his cronies do — so the American public will once again be forced to submit to programs and policies that “We the People” not only do not accept but are vehemently against.
“We the People” will not be offered the oppotunity to vote on this issue (as we should be able to in a Republic) because a handful of politicians, who happen to control our government, and a litany of loud talking Liberal activists — do want this policy. We will have to bend over, cheeks spread wide and take in another loathsome and cumbersom government program that will plunge our country further towards the brink of destruction. And yet we wait –silently — teeth clinched in pain, as Dr. Obama says, “Can you cough for me?”
Two thirds of US citizens DID NOT vote for Mr. Obama (How many votes did Barack Obama and John McCain each have? — Wikipedia.) And while it is true that Obama did indeed triump in the election, his win is hardly a sweeping National approval of his mandates or his ultra-Liberal policies as Democrats would have us believe.
Commandant Tax Cheat, Timothy Franz Geithner, wants Congress to bestow on him the ability to independently determine when a major company is in trouble and then take it over — for our own good of course. At best this is Socialism — at worst — Communism.
Our government leaders forced the retirement of the head of General Motors because he disagreed that the company needed to go into Bankruptcy (putting tens of thousands of Americans out of work and onto the Welfare rolls.) Since when did the president of the United States hav the authority to intervene in a private business matter? Not only is it unconstitutional, it is absolutely illegal and amounts, basically, to theft of property! The American people did not want this! Most of us don’t even agree with bailouts of private businesses. But no matter, now we are saddled with Goverment Motors, which we, of course, share with a foreign power — Canada. More KY Jelly, PLEASE!
I’m not rich. But, even a blind duck can see that overtaxing those who spend the most; employ people and contribute to the economic development of our society is plain stupid! Instead of proposing something reasonable, like an across the board Flat Tax, President Tax and Spend wants to penalize you for using your brains and motivation to get ahead in this world. If you are old enough to remember Jimmy Carter and the dark ages of the late 70’s and early 80’s, the nightmare of double digit interest rates alone should frighten you into becoming more Conservative on the economic policies for this country.
“If Obama and his Socialist friends were to focus on what “actually works,” they would make school choice the law of the land, crack down on drugs and gangs, lower taxes in urban areas to encourage the growth of the private sector, and a host of other free market solutions that have been advocated for decades. Instead, we get the same old tired bromides about government intervention.” American Thinker, June 1, 2009.
Yes folks, believe it! We have “Change!” But is it really a “change” that we can live with?
Conventional wisdom tells us that the world sucks! If you focus on the failing economy, prejudice, bigotry, crime, pollution, abuse and lack – then yes, our world sucks – BIG TIME!
But, if we are to truly succeed in this world, then we must always go to the highest place in ourselves. We must make a habit of cutting through the BS and the nonsense and strive towards the penultimate place in our souls. We must accept culpability for our own state of being – or we can ignore our own faultiness!
What does this mean? Well, I’m glad you asked!
Today, you are a product of every, single decision you have ever made in the past. The life you live now is not the result of what your parents did to you; what people said about you or even what may or may not have happened to you. It is a product of who you believe yourself to be and how you react to what you believe to be the truth!
Let me climb off my high horse for a minute! In the past, I have been a chronic shopper. I have scores of clothes and items that still have price tags on them! My Mother was a chronic shopper. I shopped for shopping’s sake. I didn’t’ even care if I was buying for me – as long as I was spending. If you gave me a dollar, it had a half-life of ten minutes in my wallet! My out of control spending resulted in no discernible savings on my part. So, that when I had an emergency; I had a crisis. When my car broke down; I had issues. If a check was an hour late; I had problems. Paying late charges weren’t an issue for me – it was a privilege that I took in order to stretch myself beyond my means.
I blamed everyone! I blamed my parents; who could not afford to pay for my college. So, I had to pay for myself. I blamed my clients; obviously they weren’t paying me enough. I blamed society; a Black woman is third class. I blamed Black people; why can’t we hire our own? I blamed God; if I was in this situation, He could not love me? I blamed men; What?I’m giving you what you need – give a Sister a break! I blamed my siblings – I helped you b@##$$’s why can’t you help me? But, in the end the blame laid itself at the true perpetrator – ME!
I couldn’t accept that I was the architect! I wanted to look like everyone else; be like everyone else; act like everyone else; have what everyone else had. And even though I was founded in God, I was not founded in myself! And then I turned 40!
I was no longer the cute young thing. I was the woman who looked younger than her actual age; an anomaly and a phenomenon. It was then that I made some critical decisions about how I wanted to live my life and what I wanted to be known for. (Dangling participle)
What I wanted was my authentic self. But, where was she? What would my life look like if I could no longer indulge myself in my excuses?
What I discovered is that true courage is not doing what you think is right – it is doing the thing you are most afraid of in the midst of your fear – Changing!
I learned the lesson of adaptability. I learned that change, whether it is one’s job, location or predominant beliefs — is not a bad thing. It can lead to a path of outrageous happiness and joy! Greed can be used for good, but change is better!
Dr. Wayne Dyer states that the top eighteen reasons that people cannot or will not change for success are:
And in Dyer fashion he proposes the following:
Recognize that all excuses are misalignments
Become a willing human being
Live a passion-filled life
Don’t complain/Never explain
God always says “Yes” and “Amen”. If you can visualize it – you can have it! Think on the things you want to have. Think on those things you want to be. “They that keep their minds stayed on you (God) will be cast in perfect peace.” Who you are and what you have is completely up to you and God. Now go out there make your life a great success.
If you’ve never heard this before: I love you and I believe in YOU!