Wedding Cakes, Photos and Pizza: A Simple Lesson in History and Civil Rights!

God and the Constitution

From where I stand, the ONLY rights you and I have are those natural rights given to us by God and the man made rights specifically given to Americans by the Constitution of the United States.   As far as I can tell, wedding cakes, photos and pizza for your private party are not among those rights!

You have the right to spend your money where you want and on what you want. I have the right to refuse to take your money and send you to someone who wants it.   Seriously, if I saw a sign that said, “No Blacks Allowed,” I would go someplace else, just like they did pre-Civil Rights.

Yes, that sign would be considered “illegal” to post but those signs can be read by your spirit the moment you enter a business establishment. You KNOW if you are welcomed or not; at least I do! And I am very happy to leave a place where someone might do something to my food out of spite or revenge.

For example, if you walk into MY pizza parlor, I cannot refuse to serve you pizza simply on the basis of your sexual orientation, race, creed, religion, age, etc. But, I cannot be forced to cater your PRIVATE AFFAIRS including your wedding. In fact, why would you want me to cook food and serve your guests, when it is clear that I don’t want to do that?  MOVE ON!

Congress passed the Civil Rights Act to mainly outlaw discrimination in all public accommodations. This act helped to desegregate public schools, universities, transportation, theatres and several other public places.  Now there’s a little idea about public accommodation and access to services, which covers the aforementioned issues in most, if not all, public businesses.

pizza wedding cakeBut, a private affair IS NOT public event; even if it’s held in a public space!  You cannot make me bring my pizza to your party if I don’t want to do that!  In fact, you can’t even tell me HOW to make my pizza in my own establishment. So, if I say NO pepperoni will be served here, there is nothing that you can do about that. And if I say, I won’t put two women on the top of a wedding cake, there is nothing that you can do about that either. You are free to order a cake and decorate it as you want!  You are not free to force me to do something that I don’t want to do.  Or you are equally free to go down the road and find someone who will do as you ask.

For the record, back before the Civil Rights Movement, there were many, many white people who did business with Blacks but if the “establishment” racists took issue, they would threaten their lives and their families or burn their places down or put them out of business.  So, what you had were people who followed the status quo out of fear of reprisal.  Civil Rights changed THAT!

Here are the unspoken things that Civil Rights WAS and WAS NOT about.  It was NOT about getting “Bubba” to serve you fries against his will. Do you honestly want a KKK member cooking your food?  It was about not allowing Bubba to kick your ass, hang you from a tree or set you on fire, if you dared to enter his establishment. It was about ending the outward signs and signatures of “public”

It WAS more about allowing “Mandy” to sell you fries if she wanted to sell you fries. In fact, for “Mandy” selling you french fries was less about your color and more about her economics. Bigotry walks when money talks!  Imagine Nike without Black people to buy their overpriced kicks?

The Civil Rights Movement DID NOT out law racism.  Nothing can make someone love you except God!  Civil Rights opened the doors for those Whites who didn’t care about your skin color to do business with you without repercussion.  It was also about killing institutional racism within the government and setting standards and “set-asides.”

Now to be clear, setting a limited goal of how many minority companies one must deal with is racism in and of itself on the Government’s part. They rarely exceed that 20%!  So, they have determined, within the government, who can get rich and how rich you can get. Most Black companies that experience outrageous success do so WITHOUT GOVERNMENT ASSISTANCE!  But, please enjoy your ability to drink out of the water fountain NOT installed by a Black or Hispanic company because their 20% quota on the project had been reached!

Here is what I hate about today’s debate over wedding cakes, photos and pizza: The idea that if I don’t want to serve your private event because my Faith and your Lifestyle don’t rock together, that you think it’s okay to end my ability to take care of my family.  I hate the idea that if I don’t do what you want me to do, you think it’s okay to burn down my place of business.  In fact, I believe that the Liberal idiots at actually said that anyone who refused to do so deserves to No Christians Allowedhave their businesses burned down!  I hate the idea that you feel you can send me death threats, break my windows and picket my establishment because you don’t like my religion.  Or even better, that if I serve the God and religion of my choice and choose to follow the tenets of that religion, I am labeled as “homophobic.”

I want to be perfectly clear when I say this: Not wanting to cater, photograph or perform a Gay wedding  does not mean that those folks hate you. It simply means that they love God’s Word more!  Not one single establishment said, I won’t serve you pizza or I won’t bake you a cake. What they stood on, by their own principles, is that they won’t do something that overtly promotes a lifestyle or social issue they don’t believe in, support or ascribe to.  They have the freedom, at least for the present, to do just that! And you have the freedom to go get your PRIVATE services handled by someone else!

As a business woman, I am constantly being asked by clients to perform services that are not a part of my company’s repertoire. In the past, I’ve tried to accommodate all requests, even when they are clearly out of my wheel house. But, the last year or so, I stopped doing that. Yes, I talk a good game but I don’t want to direct sell your products because it’s not what I do.  I’ve had people get angry with me for saying, “No.”  But, I don’t care. This is my business and I’m going to give you the services that I want. If I don’t have what you need, you are quite free to find someone else!  You can’t force my company to perform the services that YOU want — if I don’t want to offer that service!

Liberals want to call it “progressivism,” when what it actually represents is a throwback to the times before Civil Rights kkkwhen people were not free to make choices for themselves. Today’s movement to stifle Christians from serving God before serving man is EXACTLY like the KKK’s movement to stifle Black freedom through fear, intimidation and threats to put people out of business if they served Blacks.  Now. Think about that one for a moment!

This is NOT a move forward but quiet and significant move in the opposite direction.  It is a move back to an era where personal freedom and dignity was taken away from one people-group, simply to please another people-group.

When we begin, as a country, to uphold the rights of one person’s belief’s over the rights of another person’s belief, this is not called Freedom! When we allow the government to decide who will be in business and who will be out of business — that is called Communism. When we allow those who wish to destroy the lives and livelihood of others to put them in their place — that is called Fascism.  Just think about it!  Peace out! – J-Blue

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11 Ways to Gracefully Lose A Battle But Still Win The End Game!

Whether you own your own business or work for a company, you have to be prepared to lose something at some point in your life.   As business owners, we will inevitably lose clients, sales, vendors and employees. As a staff member, you may lose those same things and could even lose your job.  People lose games, arguments and position every minute of the day.   But, whatever type of loss you encounter, learning to face it gracefully; without bitterness, envy or anger; will always take you to an ultimate win.

I have to admit that I don’t like to lose and I don’t do it very often but it happens.  As an athlete, I learned that Second Place is the First Place Loser.  As a violin player, second chair was as bad as playing in the balcony.   As a singer, get the lead and not the chorus.  As a wife, I wanted everything in my relationship and home to be flawless.beethoven

As a mother, my child should be perfectly wonderful.  As a business owner, I want client relations to be great. And as a person, I want my life to work well and be complete.

News Flash!  Life has a way of doing as it pleases. Perfection rarely, if ever, happens and when things don’t happen the way you want or think they should happen – it can seem like a you’re losing!

People lose jobs, marriages, friendships, businesses, relationships, loved ones and sometimes we even lose a dog or a cat.  Losing and winning are both a part of Life.  We all know how to win at things. Winning always feels good.  The easy emotions and good vibrations that come along with a win can be very addictive.  Everyone loves a winner!  Winners are applauded, showered with accolades, complimented and admired.

But, when we lose something, the “winner” in us can go into a tailspin, leaving us empty, enraged and feeling alone.  When we lose things, it can often affect our self-esteem, work flow, damage relationships and make us resentful. But, there are some things that can help us turn what seems to be a loss into an ultimate End Game Win!

  1. Accept that you are human and human life is about loss. Everyone loses something. There is not a human being on Earth that has not lost at one time or another.  We can go back to the beginning of human history and see that Adam and Eve lost the Garden of Eden. Then they lost their son, Abel.  Moses lost out on being a Prince of Egypt. Haman lost to Mordecai.  For a just a minute, it looked like Samson lost to Delilah and Joseph lost to his brothers.  At one point, it looked like even God Himself, had lost.

In our modern times, politicians lose races, companies fold, reputations are trampled and jobs, friends, money, houses, husbands, wives and even children are lost.  Loss is a human condition that happens from time to time.

  1. Know who you are as a person. When loss happens, you have to be sure of your confidenceidentity and in touch with your authentic self.  Stress and deep disappointment will seep into your soul, if you don’t have a connection to who you truly are.  If you have been living inside of other people’s perceptions of who you should be and what you should be doing, loss will overtake you because you won’t have a firm foundation to stand on when it looks like things are falling apart.

We’ve all heard of the husband or wife who died and the spouse couldn’t find a reason to go on living, so they died shortly thereafter.  People lose jobs and commit suicide; they lose a big client and delve deep into alcohol or substance abuse and depression.

You can grieve a loss but grief should not take such a stronghold that it kills you or leads you into an abyss.  You had a life before that loss. Make sure that your foundation within yourself is so strong that loss cannot take you out of the game.  Learn how to get back up again.

  1. This too shall soon pass. Whenever I was angry at my parents, saddened by something they said or did, or whenever something at school or with friends did not go the way that I expected it would, Mom would say to me, “This too shall soon pass.” Basically, she taught me to accept grief as a part of moving forward.  She taught me that whatever I was feeling at that moment would diminish and go away. The pain would become less, the stinging would ease and I would be just fine as long as I got out of my own way.

I can clearly remember the first time I was ever fired from a job. I had actually been self-employed for about eight years, when this company pursued me to become their Director of Plan Education and Communications.

Job-LossIt sucked from the start.  I had the title and the money but no autonomy or authority.  And even though I felt totally trapped and was very unhappy, being terminated felt like a train had hit me. My vision blurred and the pain in my heart was actually physical.  In just a few minutes, I experienced a gamut of emotions ranging from utter disbelief to deep and overwhelming sadness.  I even got sick to my stomach and I sobbed as I packed my belongings.

I had been so invested in how good I was at my job that it never occurred to me that someone could or even would set me up for failure and dismissal.  The words, “We’re letting you go,” cut through me like a knife and I could barely breathe.  I went home that day and stayed there for the next three days.

Fortunately for me, I have a strong foundation about who I am and after I held my brief Pity Party, I got up and started to make plans to move forward.  Within a week, I had re-launched my company and never looked back.

  1. Practice the Art of Surrender to the Situation. Simply put:  Most things that happen in our lives happen externally. They are things that we didn’t create and cannot control.  How others act or feel, who likes or loves us (or doesn’t), acts of nature, rising tides, the animal kingdom and the setting of the Sun (along with many other things) are surrendercompletely out of our control.  And there is nothing we can do about it.  So, we need to develop the Art of Surrendering in order to cope and maintain our balance.  Surrendering the outcome is a freeing experience because you are not tied to results but committed to right action.

I remember in the early 80’s, the mudslides that happened in and around Santa Cruz, California.  To go to bed during a rainstorm and wake up to 3-4 feet of mud covering yards, driveways and roads, houses smashed to bits by uprooted Giant Redwoods, death and destruction all around, was a shocking and horrendous event in my Life.  Being without food, power, water and the ability to drive was a frightening experience.  It looked and felt like a war zone and it was all entirely out of my control.

The only thing that we could do was to focus on day-to-day survival issues; getting food, water and staying safe and warm.  Anyone who has ever been in a natural disaster has learned two important lessons: (1) How to release control of the outcome and (2) How to prepare for anything that comes your way.  I also learned that when mud moves, it smothers sound and you don’t hear it coming until it is so close that you cannot possibly get away.  Loss is like that too.

  1. Avoid Anger and the Blame Game. Sometimes loss can be directly attributed to another person. Other times loss is nobody’s fault. There is nothing and no one to pin it on.  In either case, don’t get caught up in the need to blame someone or something.  Anger and blame are like a pair of fraternal twins.  They may not look exactly alike but they come from the same source.  Both can affect your mental health, your physical health and impede your everyday activities.

Ongoing anger at external events can destroy your self-esteem, do great harm to your relationships and can even kill you.  Anger has been linked to heart disease, strokes, Cancer and a host of avoidable diseases.  If you have out of control anger, then you need to seek professional help. But, most often talking your anger through with someone whose counsel you trust can help you bring it under control.

The saying, “Laughter is the best medicine,” is absolutely true. When I catch myself falling into anger, I look for things that will make me laugh.  I might turn on a show, pop in a movie or call one of my funnier friends.  Comedy Central has helped me more times than I can count!

  1. Guilt is a wasted emotion. Feeling guilty about loss is ridiculous unless you did something to feel guilty about. But, even if the loss is your own fault, get with someone and confess your sins.  You will find that simply opening up and talking about what you’ve done will make you feel better. If you’ve wronged someone and created your own loss, simply say, “I’m sorry. Please forgive me. It will never happen again.”  If someone can’t forgive you after that, then move on and lose the guilt.

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If you are feeling guilty and you’ve done nothing wrong – STOP!  Access the situation, talk it out with a friend or confidante and get on with your Life.  If someone is trying to make you feel guilty when you have nothing to feel guilty about, lose them!  Life is too short to worry about nonsense.

  1. Shame. Shame. Although many people believe that guilt and shame are synonymous, they are two entirely different emotions.  Guilt is externally focused on behaviors and expresses itself by saying, “I did or said something bad.”  While shame is internally focused and expresses itself by saying, “I am a bad person.”

The shame of losing a job, divorcing a spouse, losing your freedom in the judicial system or even losing a baby can make you want to hide yourself away and pretend that things never happened.  When people experience shame, they want to hide, if not literally, than most certainly figuratively.  They may hide their true selves in order to avoid further hurt and pain. They may hide behind a cloud of denial to the true circumstances surrounding their loss.

This type of shame is based on how others might or might not view your loss.  It is based on how others perceive you and your value system and judgments.  Until you come to a genuine and clear belief about who and what you are, you will continue to be a mere reflection of what others think and how they feel about you. And when that feeling turns negative as a result of your loss, you will feel shame.

  1. Stand your ground. The hardest thing to do is to stand your ground in the face of unfair and erroneous accusations – but do it anyway.  Your integrity to you and your own values and standards is more important than going along to get along.

All too often people become boiling cauldrons of resentment because they back down when standing up to adversity, accusation and misplaced dominance is the thing to do.  If you know you are right then stand firm in your righteousness.  Don’t be bullied into taking a position that you are opposed to no matter how much the pressure of loss weighs on you.  In the end, you will be happy that you drew that line in the sand and stood firm in your convictions and the people around you will be happier with a happy you.

  1. Release and forgive. No matter the situation, you have to be willing and ready to release and forgive.  You must release the negative emotions that you are feeling and forgive the person, situation and sometimes God for what is going on in your Life.

Significant loss can trigger fear.  Even small loses can trigger a host of negative releaseemotions including anxiousness, insecurity or helplessness.  You have to be willing to let these things go.  Get a piece of paper and write down all the feelings and emotions you are experiencing. Write down how you feel about the person, place or thing that created your loss.  Take a match and set that piece of paper on fire. Make sure you go outside. You don’t want to burn down your house and, depending on the size of the fire that is a distinct possibility.

I’m being facetious but I want you to burn those feelings and watch the smoke rise into the sky and dissipate.  Let that ish go and move on. You will be happier, those around you will be happier.  Your world will become a safe place for you again.

  1. Get on with your Life. Now it’s time to make your next move.  You’ve accepted your loss, reckoned with the outcome, overcome your anger and grief and it’s time to rebuild.  I know a woman who completely reinvented herself after the death of her husband. She went from stay-at-home wife and Mom to CEO of a very successful business. She took her baking hobby and opened up a cupcake shop. Now she has nearly a dozen shops in three States.

new lifeIf you don’t have a hobby, now might be the time to get one.  Do you love to walk?  Take up hiking!  Got an eye for design?  Get a degree in decorating. Don’t let age be a barrier to your dreams. Remember that Colonel Sanders didn’t become a professional chef until he was 40 and he started Kentucky Fried Chicken at the tender young age of 62.

If your loss is work related, think about taking your genius and starting your own business. If you can’t do that, don’t wait too long before looking for a new position.  If it’s a client loss, replace them as fast as you possibly can or reassess and move in another direction.

If your loss is more personal, take time to fully grieve but don’t get mired in it.  Whether someone left you or died, there is nothing you can do about it. When my uncle died, I looked back on his life with profound happiness. I remember everything he taught me and how much he loved me. I could see that he lived a good and full life and I chose to focus on the more positive aspects of it.

  1. And finally, remember that no matter what happened, who caused it or the implications of the situation, you will be okay.  Not only will you survive, you can thrive and live fully after loss if you remember that “This too shall soon pass.”  Know that your feelings are normal and with time, they will soften and eventually go away. The sun will shine in your world again. helping-hand

Try to keep loss from interrupting your daily routine.  Keep exercising and eating – but don’t overeat because of grief. Continue to interact with your loved ones on a meaningful level.   Maintain your hobbies and those things that bring you deep joy. Don’t let loss steal your Happy.

If you are a person of faith, pray about it and hand it over to God.  If you are not a religious person, think about it and give it to the Universe, chant over it or bury it in the earth.   Just get those negative emotions and feelings out of your head and heart. and turn them over to something bigger than yourself.

When I was a kid, I wrote poems, music and short stories about my pains and perceived losses.  As an adult, I talk about it with God, close confidantes or my Mom. Then I take it to paper and write or blog about it because I know that if I am having this experience, others are too.  No man or woman is an island unto themselves. Use your experience to help others find their way in the darkness.  But, please remember that whatever you are going through, you are not alone.  I and many others really do have your back!  In the end, handling loss with dignity and grace will lead you to the Winners Circle.

Reaching Out to Reach the Top!

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Doing good for others should be come an integral part of your life’s repertoire! Along with finding positivity in everything, no matter how bad it seems; speaking words of life into your life; making the time to meditate and focus on your dreams; making plans to fulfill your dreams and taking positive decisive actions to attain the life you desire, reaching into someone else’s life and giving them hope or donating funds and time, is more than just a suggestion. It is a mandatory life skill that every person who desires success should master!volunteeringHands

Whether it’s becoming a mentor to share your knowledge, volunteering at your local church or charity, donating items or money to an organization, directly helping those you know in need or simply taking the time to pray for someone else, the benefits of giving far outweigh any negatives that might pop into your mind.

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Critical Thinking: The Other National Deficit


Yesterday, someone messaged a meme to my inbox on Facebook and without even questioning it, I reposted and retweeted!

Shortly thereafter, someone responded with a calling my meme an urban myth. I have been a writer, researcher and journalist in some capacity since I was a young child. So, it is very rare that I don’t research something that is sent to me before I pass it on.

But this time, I allowed my critical thinking muscle to remain asleep and posted without question. There were a few demands that I apologize or retract but I did not because in the world of instant social messaging, these things will happen and it’s not like I’m CBS or CNN. I mean they rarely retract even if their message error reaches millions!

But, for some reason, this little incident got me to thinking about how so many of us in American society have lost the Art of Critical Thinking; especially in these trying and uneasy times, and particularly with our oh, so social lives.

Think about it!  We don’t even log into Facebook anymore, it just stays open!  But every single day, we immediately begin going through our “friends” updated status posts; deleting, responding or ignoring.  We check our Twitter to see what’s been tweeted and if we like it we retweet.  We go to our Linkedin page to get the latest business trends; Pinterest and Instagram to see the new pics and suggested boards to repin, take a look to see what our favorite bloggers have to say and make sure that our email backlog hasn’t grown too much.

We are certainly a Social Networked Nation. But, for the most part, we are socializing, twitting, facing, linking up, listening to and being influence by virtual strangers that we have placed enough trust in to believe what they post.  Never mind that we have never met said “friend” face-to-face” or had as much as a personal phone call.  And I would like to think that this behavior is strange except it’s not anymore.  It has become the “new normal.”

But, I’m not complaining!  I have made fast and true friends via Social Media.  I have cried with, prayed for and celebrated along with dozens and dozens of my “friends.”  I have confided in, railed against and even “blocked” others.  I have made good “friends” and lost them over something I said in a post.  I have made bad “friends” that I have lost immediately.  There are even quite a few people with whom I have remained “social” with since I initiated Social Media back in 1993.

Back then, it was chat rooms on AOL.  That was when the internet was purely dial up and you were charged by the hour for your time in chat rooms as well as by the phone company . I remember running up a $600 phone bill from hanging out chatting and playing online games from six one evening until 6 the next morning. That bill broke that habit once and for all.

My next venture was to a site call Ryze.  It really was the predecessor of Facebook because it was the first site where you could chat and instant message on a board that others could see.  I joined that site back in 2004, prior to George W. Bush’s first election.  It was a rousing time politically and conservatives and liberals did battle.  It was truly a fun time and I met many friends that I have remained connected with even as we transferred our online lives over to Facebook in 2008.  So, having meaningful and long term online relationships are nothing new to me having been involved in Social Media for the last 20 years.  So much for history back to the purpose of this blog post.

Social Media has turned us all into news sources.  In fact, we are becoming a nation of reporters.  Our need to have instantaneous reports has led to a surplus of information; some good and some not so good.

In order to fight against rumors, hearsay and gossip, some have managed to create websites that debunk erroneous transmissions, while still other sites have popped up to debunk the debunkers!

At the end of the day, we no longer have to research because we can Google and Wiki our way to the truth. We don’t have to parse between what is right and what is wrong because others are doing our thinking for us. We need only to decide what it is we want to hear and most likely someone, somewhere on the internet has said it the way we like it.  And we will accept it and pass it on as if it’s the truth.

I would love to believe that only I have made this mistake but unfortunately, we all do it at one time or another!  I have found myself debunking the posts, blogs and updates of many people over the past 20 years as I’m sure you have.

Usually if I see a few friends posting about something, I find interesting, I will click to see what’s up. Frankly, Facebook is now my major source for news and updates, then I will Google for verification.  I’m not big on sharing information that has not passed the smell test. But, occasionally, someone that I “trust” will send me a blurb and without hesitation, I just pass it along.

In 1987, at the 8th Annual International Conference on Critical Thinking and Education Reform, Michael Scriven & Richard Paul defined critical thinking as “the intellectually disciplined process of actively and skillfully conceptualizing, applying, analyzing, synthesizing, and/or evaluating information gathered from, or generated by, observation, experience, reflection, reasoning, or communication, as a guide to belief and action.

In its exemplary form, it is based on universal intellectual values that transcend subject matter divisions: clarity, accuracy, precision, consistency, relevance, sound evidence, good reasons, depth, breadth, and fairness.”

So, in short, there are five essential traits that define a critical thinker:

  1. Critical thinkers break arguments into basic statements and draw logical implications.
  2.  Critical thinkers locate ambiguity and vagueness in arguments and propositions.
  3. Critical thinkers determine if the premises are reasonable and identify information that has been omitted or not collected.
  4. Critical thinkers determine if the premises support the conclusion.
  5. Critical thinkers weigh the evidence and arguments.  Contradictions and lack of evidence decrease the weight of an argument.

So, I have determined that 80% of the time, I am a Critical Thinker.  My goal is to be one all of the time!


The Measure of a Man: A Non-discussion of Race in America

Earlier today, someone expressed disappointment because I described another person on a social network as ‘some white guy.’   I referred to him as ‘some white guy’ because I didn’t appreciate the consistently erroneous posts he was making regarding Black crime in America as well as other comments on various threads.

Apparently, my use of the term made her “lose” a modicum of respect for me. I kind of felt like I was supposed to feel guilty and apologize for using a bad word or something! I responded personally but that wasn’t enough for me. So, I did a status update but somehow I couldn’t respond to her in 150 characters without sounding snide or smug, so I decided to blog it out! 

Her comments, and the recent hullabaloo surrounding Glenn Beck’s MLK Celebration, got me to thinking about race in this country.  Not so much about why we need to start or continue the dialogue but really more about why we haven’t gotten to the stage when the dialogue is no longer necessary?

With the election of our first Black President, not since the days of the ‘Black Codes’ and ‘Jim Crow’ laws have Americans been more polarized by our racial differences. But the good, and the bad, thing is that it is no longer just a matter of Black and White. Today, we navigate the racial highway with Middle Easterners, Hispanics, Asians, and a rainbow of nationalities, colors and creeds. So, why do people still feel the conversation is only between Caucasians and Negros?

Two major historical events have made this a two-man fight for all time. The first event was Abraham Lincoln’s Emancipation Proclamation freeing American slaves. The second happened on summer’s day, in 1968, when one Dr. Reverend Martin Luther King stood on the Mall of Washington and gave, what is undoubtedly one of the most moving and stirring sermons on freedom in history, his “I Have a Dream” speech.

Often White’s, especially conservatives, are proud to point to the fact that it was Abraham Lincoln, a Republican, who freed the slaves. Not to pour water on anyone’s party but the reason for freeing the slaves was to economically hurt the ten rogue states in the south and thwart their efforts by eliminating the free labor that was helping them gain their (successful at one point)  independence from the United States. It didn’t help when Abe made them compensate former slaves for their work.

Black’s hold Dr. King in particular esteem for his work, and the ultimate sacrifice of his life, in an effort to gain equal rights under the law for the nation’s Black population. Never mind the fact that King was  not the first man or woman to lose his life before and during this era but in was in actuality one of many who marched, fought, were jailed and killed.

But, just as White’s don’t own the legacy of  President Abraham Lincoln, Blacks don’t own the legacy of Dr. Martin Luther King.  If one truly takes the time to read King’s speeches you would find that, although his mission was to the Black Community, his ministry was to the world.

Dr. King understood that racism and oppression were not uniquely American institutions reserved specifically for Blacks and when he said the now famous words, “”Free at last! Free at last! Thank God Almighty, we are free at last!” he made sure to include all of God’s children, black men and white men, Jews and Gentiles, Protestants and Catholics.

Reverend King’s ‘Dream’ was not one in which people ignored color and race for he knew that God created us in a variety of beautiful hues and tones  on purpose.  His ‘Dream’ was one in which the color of one’s skin would not be an indicator for how we decide human capability and destiny; one in which we did not ignore our differences but could find a way to celebrate our commonalities.

Today so many people think that if they claim to be colorblind, this will relieve them from the burden pursuing the real issues that divide us.  Those issues are not apparent on the outside, but reside deep within; where our spirit rises up to meet our humanity. 

But, are they truly colorblind?  Do they tense up when a group of young Blacks enter an elevator or pass them on the street — while patting themselves on the back because they have a few Black friends and neighbors?  One wonders if a group of Asians or young White teens were to approach, would they be just as apprehensive?   Store clerks still raise their eyebrows and look nervously about at Black shoppers, no matter the expense of their garb.  Even Black clerks are more prone to be polite to White, Asian or Middle Eastern shoppers than they are to their brothers and sisters of similar color.

Only today, at Fernbank Science Center in Atlanta, a security guard denied a group of Black daycare students the right to eat at lunch tables inside the facility while allowing a group of White children the privilege of sitting at those same tables and enjoying their lunch. The Executive Director called it a case of “bad” Customer Service and closed the conversation.

Claiming to be “colorblind” is NOT the opposite of being a racist. And being ‘politically correct’ does not mean you are not biased in some way.  Resting easy with another despite outward appearances such as color and being able to openly be yourself within any culture and among any people group without fear of respite — are the real barometers — not some arbitrary pretense over language.

Acid-head Flashbacks to a Time That Never Was

Dealing with most Left-wing Liberals and Obama Progressives is like being on a roller coaster ride during a bad LSD trip!  It is sure to be a memorable and frightening time; and most likely when it is over, you will want to throw up.  Eeewww!  The thought just made me spit up in my mouth–a little.

One minute they demand that “in God We Trust”, Christmas (including Nativity scenes and the term ‘Merry Christmas’), the “Ten Commandments” and anything pertaining to Christianity, be removed from schools, courthouses, department stores, office buildings, parks, private businesses and major corporations.  

We are, however, allowed to attend “interfaith” celebrations (as long as there is no mention of Jesus), continue watching ‘It’s a Wonderful Life’, teach our children about “the Grinch who Stole Christmas’ (after all he’s a hero), send our children searching for eggs laid by a bunny; and believe in the Universal principles behind the Ten Commandments (we just can’t look at them?).

I can’t imagine anyone taking issue with a baby in a manger surrounded by little lambs; calves and three wise men from the East.   Now take note that these three men were from Persia (present day Iran) and instead of arming themselves to blow up the minute they entered the manger, they instead brought with them expensive gifts of gold, frankincense and myrrh

I am still baffled by whoever, in their right mind, would want to remove a document that admonishes people not to kill, steal, lie or commit adultery, from courthouse and school walls. It would seem to me that this is exactly the message you would want to convey to both children and criminals. But, oh, yeah…It’s Christian!

Progressives believe that Christianity should be eliminated from every bit of public life because it is an infringement on free speech; separation of church and state and a kitchen sink full of bits and pieces that are meant to make Christians feel degraded, foolish and out of touch with the rest of society!  They constantly remind Christians of the need to keep their religion behind closed doors during the week and in church on Sundays.

If I were them, I’d want my enemy as public as possible; even worshipping in the town square! At least then I could use some sort of camera to lip-read their prayers to make sure they weren’t praying me off the planet!  But, I digress.

Although Eighty-three percent of Americans identify themselves as Christians (33% worldwide) our Chief Progressive, Barack Obama, has told the world that “America is not a Christian nation”.   What?!? Eighty-three percent is better than a quorum so if we aren’t Christian, then what exactly are we in the Progressive world.

With only 4 percent of Americans identify themselves as adherents of all non-Christian religions combined — including Jews, Muslims, Buddhists and a smattering of individual mentions, Obama broke with tradition deciding to forego the National Day of Prayer (established by President Harry in 1952) ceremony at the White House and had Franklin Graham (son of Evangelist Billy Graham) kicked to the curb from the Pentagon ceremony.

Both a crescent-shaped moon and Barack Obama ushered in Ramadan; one with an amazing light show from the sky; and the other with a televised video extending his best wishes to Muslim communities in the United States and around the world. One month later, Obama decided to uphold White House tradition and host an Iftar dinner in the White House State Dining Room.  Iftar is the meal that breaks the dawn-to-dusk fast for Muslims during Ramadan.

Amazingly, since the uproar over the NYC mosque, Liberal Progressives ‘from sea to shining sea’ have found their collective religious voice to  bellow from soap boxes and mountaintops; that to prevent the building of a mosque two blocks from Ground Zero would be an infringement on the “freedom of religion” of Muslims.   

One cannot help but take note that it seems as if the liberal progressive brand of ‘freedom of religion’ is offered to everyone EXCEPT Christians. And for that you really do have to pause and wonder, “What is it about the message of Jesus Christ that sends (not a tingle but) a full-on electrical shock up the legs of Liberals? 

I find it dumbfounding that most liberals, even those who call themselves Christians, have managed to buy the progressive party line and talking points ‘hook, line and sinker’. Abortion is not murder; it is choice. Welfare is not middle class workers carrying the burden of a segment of society who (for whatever reason) will not work.  People don’t kill people, guns kill people. Government healthcare is your right.  It is the government’s job to regulate everyone including business and they know what is good for you.  Big business is bad and so much more.

I’ve been having a running argument with a very liberal, non-religious young man on my Facebook page. You see, he loves to tell me that because of my Christianity, I have a ‘misinformed mentality’; throws about the term ‘fundamentalist’ like a Yankee pitcher and cannot help but comment on my lack of tolerance whenever he gets the chance.  He tells me that because I agree with the opponents of the mosque that I am a bigot.

Here’s what I say: America’s past and future is that of a Christian nation with a high tolerance for people of other religions or no religion at all.  Christmas comes after Thanksgiving and I’m going to keep saying Merry Christmas, and I may even dress like an ancient Jew on Christmas Day.  I am building a HUGE nativity scene for my front yard and a cross with Jesus on it for Easter.  I will post the Ten Commandments in my front yard if I want to, but I am definitely giving my son moral teaching outside the US school system.

The past you’re flashing back to does not exist but mine does and we need to take ten steps backwards before we fall off the cliff.

I don’t know if Obama is a Muslim but if actions speak louder than words, he acts like he’s a Muslim!  I will continue to voice my opinion on these topics until the God of Abraham, Isaac and Jacob takes me away.  I would tell progressives to go to Hell, but I don’t have to.  They and their hallucinations are already half way there!

The Tao of Poop: Meth in the White House

vanjonesweb_resized400X266As Independents and moderate Democrats take to the hills faster than a California brush fire, Barack Obama is becoming to the Liberal elite media, what honey is to a bear: Something they love to lap up, but at the end of the day, if you have too much, it actually makes you sick.

If you wonder why they’ve avoided any significant reporting on the brotha’ from another planet, Van Jones, Special Advisor for Green Jobs at the White House Council on Environmental Quality and founder of Green for All, an advocacy group that works to bring green jobs to the underprivileged, and author of The Green Collar Economy (or any of Obama’s other “Czars”), it’s because, frankly, they don’t really know what to say.  I mean, they are truly dumbfounded!  His credentials LOOKED good!

Van “hoof-in-mouth” Jones has openly spewed his contempt for the United States for years and yet not one Liberal spoke up when he was appointed by Obama.  The silence from the Left is deafening following Jones’ latest gaffe.  Not even Pelosi, who opens her mouth more than a frog in a fly factory, has uttered a word in his defense.

Not enough that he supported the killer of police officers.  Not enough that he is crazy enough to openly back the belief that President Bush was responsible for the 9/11 tragedy.  Not enough that he publicly called a significant portion of the United States population “assholes.”  Not enough that he called a living President of the United States a “crack head.”  These acts and statements make him fit to serve as advisor to the man who holds the highest position in our country?  Somebody’s on Meth in the White House!

According to White House press secretary Robert Gibbs, Jones “continues to work in the administration.” Why?  If ANYONE in the Bush Administration had been so openly stupid every media outlet on the planet would have been demanding a resignation.  Jones said: “If I have offended anyone with statements I made in the past, I apologize.”  Okaaay…

Day after day the leftist media outlets are seeing that Obama is truly a deceitful, America-hating supporter of not just one racist (Reverend Wright); not just one Communist (William Ayers); but has managed to subjugate the Constitution and illegally surround himself with a cadre of presidential “appointees” who make Stalin look like the Olson twins in comparison.   

From his stance on creating a “culture of death” to his gangsta’ takeover of healthcare, the Liberal media is finally discovering that the “man of change” they paraded to the American public and stuffed down our throats, is actually a horror they helped to unleash. And for that they have no excuse.  How do you back pedal from a monumental mistake like this? 

You don’t!  You ignore it and pretend that it isn’t happening.  You find the best turd in this pile of s**t and act like it’s the best thing since the cable television.  You parade, before an ever enlightened public, every pitiable person with a sob story to tell in this burning heap to try and make it look like “your guy” is actually doing something good.  At least that’s what you do if you have NO scruples and NO morals yourself.  Welcome to mainstream media!

When supposed “legitimate and unbiased” observers like Eva Paterson, president and founder of the Equal Justice Society, a group known to support liberal views, reports in the Huffington Post (a decidedly liberal blog) that Jones has apologized; changed his radical ways and is the subject of unwarranted conservative attacks, I only need look to his most recent video and read HIS own words.

It is little wonder that people no longer wish to pay to read mainstream media tripe and newspapers are fading faster than Madonna’s looks.  If mainstream television news continues on its present path, it will likely see a similar demise. Katie who?

The very thing the Obama Administration purports to cure (partisan politics, racism, cultural division), it actually supports; using the bully pulpit, subversion and oppression in an attempt to silence the opposition. 

And the Liberal media is either too afraid or too stupid to speak out against it or even report on it.  So, what makes this Administration so special?  Nothing at all — except the president is a Black man!  And to speak out against him makes you a racist!

History is rife with tin-can dictators (and their media supporters) who believe that 51% is enough to make the rest of us into mindless slaves incapable of rising up.  But they’ve been wrong before and they are wrong today.  Just watch the tumbling polls and be prepared for 2010 and a one-term president named Barack Hussein Obama who will depart the White House in 2012!

What Will You Do For Love?

me n gabeGabriel and I have been in Atlanta for nearly 4 months now.  It is by far the biggest transition I have ever made in my life.  I have moved to 4 major cities, including leaving the country, completly alone and knowing no one.   But, I have never moved with a child — especially a special needs child.

These first few months have been filled with making sure that all of his services; every therapist and doctor as well as specialists are duplicated here in Georgia.  I have personally interviewed each and every one of them to make sure of his level of care and that he progresses at the same level of speed that we had achieve while living in Florida.

Gabriel is a trooper always ready with a laugh and a giggle that can make my clouds virtually disappear!  He would live in a card board box as long as his Mommy was there with him!  Fortunately for both of us, that will not be an option he will have to explore.  Things are tight as I restart my life and business here in Georgia but the move was necessary in order to give Gabriel the best pre-school education that I could.

Gabriel is blissfully unaware of anything except eating, sleeping, playing and pooping!  His days are currently filled with wreaking havoc at his daycare — all the while batting his big browns and flashing his wonderful smile — as we wait for his first year at the Buice School to start this August.  It is absolutely amazing how much progress he has made physically!

This summer we focused much of our attention on a few basics like getting in and out of his toddler bed and walking.  Once we settled into our duplex townhouse, I decided it was time that Gabriel moved from his baby bed into a toddler bed.  Up until then, he had only experienced entrapped sleeping. 

I needed to teach him out to get in and out of bed.  It took one day!  For about four hours we worked on getting in the bed one leg at a time.  He used the sheets to pull himself in and didn’t use his legs too much.  For him, it was a gargantuan effort.  It took so much out of him but by the end of the day, he could get in and out of bed on his own.

A few nights later, I awoke to the intense feeling that someone was in the room with me watching me.  My heart froze in the darkness.  I slowly opened my eyes to find Gabriel standing at the end of the bed — just looking at me.  I burst into laughter and took him back to bed.  It happened again the next night!  I decided, for safety’s sake (we are on the second floor) to put up a barrier that would keep him in bed at night.  Not only had he mastered the art of getting out of bed, he was able to maneuver the safety gate at his bedroom door to complete the escape.  I can’t help but smile at how smart he is.

We also started walking this summer.  He is adept at walking down the stairs (holding my hand of course) and can walk (albeit wobbly) all the way to the car.  Once at daycare, we take the long walk to breakfast with Gabriel waving to everyone along the way.  His legs grow stronger everyday and he is able to stand alone for about 10 seconds.  This may not seem like much to anyone else, but for Gabriel this is a monumental accomplishment!

Gabriel has also learned to color!  And the walls of his room are proof of his artistry.  I have had to remove all crayons (unless I am in the room.) From walls to doors to window sills — Gabriel’s artistic endeavors tell me he is truly a master at horizontal and vertical lines.  A Van Gogh is on the horizon.  More to come soon!